Dear Max

Gay Health and Lifestyle Advice

I have been with my boyfriend for three years, and I cheated on him with a acquaintance of both of ours. I could say it was due to use of alcohol, but that would be a lie. The opportunity just presented itself, and I took it. 

Will I ever get over this, or am I just doomed to feel the guilt for a night of passion that should have never occurred? 

I don't like being gay
I don't like being gay. I've already accepted the fact that I'm gay and that there isn't anything that I can do about it. I understand that it was never a choice and that, in order to be happy with myself, I have to be "happy" with IT. But I'm not. I realized that I was gay when I was seventeen and, at that time, only admitted to myself that I was gay, but I was never happy with it. It was kind of like I was told I had cancer; it's the truth, but I didn't want to think about.
My family treats me badly after I came out
My mom and my brother found out that I am gay. I really wasn't ready to come out yet and I didn't plan for it to happen. Now I feel like I am screwed and I don't know what to do. My mom didn't take it welll at all and she now treats my like I'm trash. She does not really talk to me anymore. It's like I'm there, but she really doesn't care.
I'm gay but want a straight life
Dear Max, I am a seventeen year-old gay man. At least I consider myself to be. I enjoy the company of men and my fantasies involve men. But I see myself getting married to a woman and starting a straight family. I've considered my feelings being bisexual, but I am still confused. I am sexually attracted to males, but I look forward to women. I also feel I must choose a side, gay or straight and not bisexuality. There are plenty of young girls whom I've wanted to date, share my life with, but it all comes down to the sexual desires I lust in men.
My wife knows about my boyfriend
Dear Max, I am 42 years old and in my second marriage, I've come to realize that I'm Bi and possibly gay. I've had a few sexual encounters over the years and now have a long distance boyfriend for the past 6 months that I see about once a month. I feel like I'm crawling out of my skin because I don't know what to do. I'm not sure if I should throw away my current life and everything I have to lead a gay life or if I should try to ignore my urges.
I'm in love with a co-worker
I have a situation at work. I have fallen in love with my co-worker. The problem is he still lives with his ex-boyfriend. He told me he is still in love with him even though hi ex sleeps around, and doesn't love him no more. And the second thing is he has AIDS. I am negative, and him having aids doesn't bother me. Because I am very well aware of how to be safe with someone with aids.
A relationship of convenience
I am 25. I have been in a relationship with a man for 3 years and he is now 51. Our relationship is hard and very difficult. We don't communicate very well, sex is almost non-existent, and I feel too often as if I am a possession. He is not my sugar daddy, he has never paid a bill of mine. I am a full time student, I work full time and I am a member of the Nat'l guard. I always hoped when I left my wife to pursue this relationship that his and mine would be similar to my wife's and mine.
Dating two guys at once
Dear Max, I am dating two people right now. At first, I thought it was fun, but now it is getting to be too much. What should I do?
New in town and feeling lonely
I just moved to a new city and I have no friends. I am 21 and I have been meeting people through the internet. Is that okay or am I sick?
Waiting for Him to Love You
Do you think it's stupid of me to wait for this guy, Alex, who I really like a lot, even though he is not ready for a relationship. We've been talking for 2 months now and I've already started to tell him, "I Love You." What should I do?
Born to be bisexual
Dear Max, I heard that there was once a study on people and sexuality, and that everyone is born bisexual... that, as they grow older, they decide their sexuality. What they want and who they want. Thing is, this was done a good few years ago, as I know it, and I can't find any of the research. I really don't know how to start searching, except that it was in a science magazine.

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