Dear Max

Gay Health and Lifestyle Advice

Dear Max, I am a seventeen year-old gay man. At least I consider myself to be. I enjoy the company of men and my fantasies involve men. But I see myself getting married to a woman and starting a straight family.

I've considered my feelings being bisexual, but I am still confused. I am sexually attracted to males, but I look forward to women. I also feel I must choose a side, gay or straight and not bisexuality. There are plenty of young girls whom I've wanted to date, share my life with, but it all comes down to the sexual desires I lust in men.

My wife knows about my boyfriend
Dear Max, I am 42 years old and in my second marriage, I've come to realize that I'm Bi and possibly gay. I've had a few sexual encounters over the years and now have a long distance boyfriend for the past 6 months that I see about once a month. I feel like I'm crawling out of my skin because I don't know what to do. I'm not sure if I should throw away my current life and everything I have to lead a gay life or if I should try to ignore my urges.
I'm in love with a co-worker
I have a situation at work. I have fallen in love with my co-worker. The problem is he still lives with his ex-boyfriend. He told me he is still in love with him even though hi ex sleeps around, and doesn't love him no more. And the second thing is he has AIDS. I am negative, and him having aids doesn't bother me. Because I am very well aware of how to be safe with someone with aids.
A relationship of convenience
I am 25. I have been in a relationship with a man for 3 years and he is now 51. Our relationship is hard and very difficult. We don't communicate very well, sex is almost non-existent, and I feel too often as if I am a possession. He is not my sugar daddy, he has never paid a bill of mine. I am a full time student, I work full time and I am a member of the Nat'l guard. I always hoped when I left my wife to pursue this relationship that his and mine would be similar to my wife's and mine.
Dating two guys at once
Dear Max, I am dating two people right now. At first, I thought it was fun, but now it is getting to be too much. What should I do?
New in town and feeling lonely
I just moved to a new city and I have no friends. I am 21 and I have been meeting people through the internet. Is that okay or am I sick?
Waiting for Him to Love You
Do you think it's stupid of me to wait for this guy, Alex, who I really like a lot, even though he is not ready for a relationship. We've been talking for 2 months now and I've already started to tell him, "I Love You." What should I do?
Born to be bisexual
Dear Max, I heard that there was once a study on people and sexuality, and that everyone is born bisexual... that, as they grow older, they decide their sexuality. What they want and who they want. Thing is, this was done a good few years ago, as I know it, and I can't find any of the research. I really don't know how to start searching, except that it was in a science magazine.
My friend is stealing my man
Ok, I met this guy online through a friend and we talked all the time, on the phone and online. Turns out he was from my area doing time in ND for the military. Well, he told them that he was gay and was discharged. I come to find out that he and my best friend have been talking and all. I have no problem with that and my friend has a habit of stealing men from people.
I always seem to end up alone and forgotten
I'm 22 and am looking for a boyfriend, but I always seem to end up alone and forgotten by the end of the night. I have tried being social, but not slutty. I've tried laughing at jokes that aren't funny. I've tried wearing clothes that show off my body, which is pretty toned. I've tried scooping the room for guys who are making eye contact with me, but they always look away once they notice me looking right back at 'them.
I'm in love with a boy at school
Well, there is this boy that I really like at school. But He's straight. I really want to tell him how I feel, but I can't bring myself to do it. I can't stand this! I think about him 24/7 I can't get him out of my head. Do you think I should tell him how I feel? Thanks Max, you give great advice! :)