I am 25. I have been in a relationship with a man for 3 years and he is now 51. Our relationship is hard and very difficult. We don't communicate very well, sex is almost non-existent, and I feel too often as if I am a possession. He is not my sugar daddy, he has never paid a bill of mine. I am a full time student, I work full time and I am a member of the Nat'l guard. I always hoped when I left my wife to pursue this relationship that his and mine would be similar to my wife's and mine. Laughing, spending time together, long talks, similar interests, and two people working towards one goal. But I was mistaken we seem to only be roommates in a home owned by his ex-boyfriend who doesn't want any of us to make any one aware that any of us are gay. I don't know what exactly I am asking, I just thought you would have some advice on the subject. I think I feel it's a relationship of convenience right now not of love or respect.